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Going Speed Dating

By: Sarah O'Hara BA (hons) - Updated: 12 Oct 2012 | comments*Discuss
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Speed dating is so popular that you’ve probably heard of it and seen events advertised near you. However, it’s quite possible that you still don’t know what exactly it entails.

Speed dating events are a way to meet a lot of people in one night, in an organised setting. You can quickly get to know 15 or more people a little better without having the awkwardness of moving on from the conversation or being asked for your number.

Speed Dating: How it Works

When you arrive at a speed dating event, you’ll be given a badge with your name and sometimes a number on it. You’ll see a number of tables for two people laid out around the room. You’ll also be given a piece of paper or chart on which you can make notes about the people that you meet. This sounds a little harsh but speed dating is for fun and you’ll meet so many people that you will lose track if you don’t write some reminders down.

Once the event begins you’ll sit at a table with your first 'date' and then you will have three or four minutes to get to know them. You can ask any questions you like and they’ll ask you questions too – don’t forget, though, the time is limited so choose what you ask and say wisely!

After the allocated time is up, a bell will ring and you’ll move on to the next person. Sometimes everyone moves, sometimes just the men or women – the organisers will explain what will happen. This will continue until you’ve met all the other speed daters.

What if I Meet Someone I Like?

After you have been on all your speed ‘dates’, you log onto the speed dating website (at home) and tick those you’d be interested in going on a real date with. If they ticked you as well you’ll receive an email with their contact details – usually their email address. They will receive yours too. You’ll only receive the details of people you have ticked.

Speed Dating Tips

  • Wear something you feel confident in – you’ll make the best impression if you feel good about yourself.
  • Many people have a few drinks at speed dating events as part of a fun evening out, but beware of getting blind drunk – you might not make the best first impression!
  • Think of a few questions beforehand in case you get nervous.
  • Don’t give your personal details out – abide by the same safety principles you normally would.

Speed Dating Question Ideas

You might soon bet bored of asking about what people do for a living. Here are a few more ideas:

  • Ask about hobbies
  • What is your ideal job?
  • Where would you like to travel to and why?
  • What is your speciality dish?
  • What was the last CD you bought?
  • What is your favourite film?
  • Are you reading any books at the moment?

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