Large age gaps in relationships can cause problems – but usually because of the reactions of others rather than the two people involved. You will also find that people are more accepting of a relationship when the man is older, as this is somehow seen as more ‘normal’. However, as long as you and your boyfriend are both consenting adults then there is no reason why you should not find love with each other, whatever your ages.
It is understandable that your boyfriend’s mum would be wary of your relationship as she is obviously protective of her son and will always be looking out for him. However, having been together for three years already, you have proved that you are not going to use him or treat him badly and have more than proved your worth.
After having been with your boyfriend for so long you have every right to expect him to introduce you formally and proudly to his family. He probably doesn’t want to upset her but he needs to stand up to her and be mature enough to treat you with the respect that you deserve.
Sit down with him and explain how you are feeling. Tell him that while you are very happy with your relationship you wish that his family could be part of your lives. He will probably say that it doesn’t matter but be clear and firm that it does matter to you. It is his responsibility to buffer this situation and show that he has nothing to hide and is happy for you to be in his life. He needs to explain that both you and his mum are very important in his life and that it would mean a great deal to him if you could all spend time together.
Try to arrange an informal get together, in a neutral location, where you can meet his mum. Once she gets to know you for the person that you are, rather than the image she has built up of you, then it is likely that she will thaw. Your boyfriend needs to take an integral part in this process though, working hard to make you both feel comfortable.
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