My Partner Cheated On Me: How Can Get Over it?

When a partner has cheated on you it can be very difficult to regain the trust and move on with your relationship. You feel hurt, angry and scared and are unable to get past the betrayal. However, your relationship can recover and for the sake of yourself, your partner, and your child it is important that you get this issue resolved.

It is unclear whether your partner actually cheated on you or whether you just thought that he had, but either way his behaviour and lack of respect has obviously affected you a lot. All these issues have never had time to be sorted out or for the wounds to heal as you then fell pregnant and added even more pressure to your relationship.

Your partner wants to make your relationship work or he would not still be around but you have got to stop punishing him and yourself for what happened. You need to rebuild the trust and respect between you so that you can have a healthy relationship and set a good example for your child.

To do this you need to start being honest with each other. It may be painful but you need to sit down together and talk about why this happened. Make him answer any questions you still have a bout the affair and let him explain why he felt the need to seek attention elsewhere. This will work best if you seek the help of a counsellor who can help you communicate your feelings.

Once you have approached the past you need to start building your future. Being controlling and insecure will only drive you crazy and him away. Firstly, you need to work on your own confidence and feelings of insecurity. Focus on the positive things about yourself and start believing that you are worth his commitment. Also, you need to have some fun together and put time and effort into enjoying your relationship. Arrange a babysitter once a week and have ‘date night’, take up a new hobby together or make sure you spend some quality time together at least once a day.

To be happy and have a strong relationship you both need to start living your lives, giving each other freedom and not letting the past rule your future.