Can Husband Force Me to Sell Our Home?

Mr.Lost 09/07/2020 at 9:18 pm

Married for10 years, have 3 kids & suddenly fell in to this deep hole. A few months ago I had an argument with my wife which ended up badly by me slapping her (please don't draw me as a T-rex for the description is of a lizard ). Got locked in a cell for that(DV) and now currently released on bail with conditions not allowing me to make contact with my wife nor going near my home nor contact with kid unless through social service. Got charged and my court hearing is 2 months away & im stuck in limbo . I feel like im being stitched up hear & suddenly not sure who my wife is for she could have dropped the charges by now & got me back home.
Anyway if worst comes to worst following the court hearing we may end up taking the divorce route , I am the sole owner of the family home & it has no mortgage since my Father lend me all the money to purchase it in full before we got married. I payed for every singe thing in the house and every single bill up to now & still paying . how will the house situation be sorted since i owe all the money to my father .

Sylvia 23/10/2019 at 3:40 pm

Hi, I have lived with my husband for 18 years but married him just 6 years ago. I wish I hadn’t. Initially he put £50,00 deposit down for a mortgage and invested a further £30,000 in building a room in the roof. By the time he’d finished it both my sons had left home. Our mortgage was £179,00 but I have now (with a £40,000 gift from my mother) paid it all off.
He has never worked and so our income has solely been what I have earned. I have paid the mortgage, bills and everything for 20 years. I have always put a monthly payment in his account so he has his own cash and have always bought anything that we need. I am so relieved that I never gave into having a joint account with him as he is so controlling. It has now got to a stage where I can no longer bear it and I want to start afresh. Can I retain the house if I can pay him off or will I have to sell? I’m also really worried that he’ll have half my pension - I’m a teacher and it’s not great. Any advice would be great.

Meeps 24/08/2019 at 12:37 am

My husband left our home almost 4 and a half years ago. He did not attend the counselling sessions we agreed to and one month later, said he did not wish to try reconciliation. I tried to get him to attend mediation to sort out our home, which I am still living in, several times in the past but he refused.
He has now said he wants to start divorce proceedings in a couple of weeks and I should consider my options regarding the marital home, which is in both names. Two of our grown up sons still live at home, as well as my youngest son’s fiancée. Both my youngest son and myself have health issues which prevent/hinder our working and I am in dire financial difficulties, including having an IVA.
He has paid nothing at all since leaving, including nothing towards the mortgage payments. If I am forced to sell, I will not have enough money from the sale to buy anywhere for me to live, let alone my sons. I am sick with worry over this. Please tell me what rights I have, if any. Thanks

babs 31/07/2019 at 4:44 pm

i been married for 23 yrs im 70 my husband 42 he had an affair 2years ago iv serious health conditions severe disabilty dwp have told themi took him to court for a financial order cause he keep harrasing me to come up with 40000 or house has to go i dont have the income to buy him out hes good health i dont agree with judges reply i said my son would try to raise the cash so unfair judge summing said cant force the sale of the house cause my age health on other issues under sec 25 matrimonial 73 then in next breath said i have 4 months to come up with 30000 or house would have to be sold can this be allowed judge order 40% of the house to him the above 16000 on charge on home this is so unfare says i can stay in my home but 4 months on if no £30000 i gotta sell it that cant be right

Mich 08/05/2019 at 5:48 pm

Hi can my ex make me drop my price for our house court has said it is 50/50 each ?

Angua1973 23/04/2019 at 11:00 am

My mum of 76 has had a message from her estranged husband that he wants a later from her agreeing to a divorce and sale of the house. He left her in a house they bought 5 years ago but he never lived there. She is disabled and very distraught that he can make her sell the house. He is only 56 and still works. Can he force her to sell. Thanks

TERRY 02/04/2019 at 7:48 am

Hi
My husband and I are tenants in common for our house for which I paid £140,00 deposit and he £30,000. I have left with my 12 year old daughter(he is not the father) and want to sell due to a breakdown in our relationship. we have only been there 1 and a half years. can I force him to sell as I need to rent/buy somewhere else for me and my daughter as he wouldn't move out, and now says he wont sell. the tenancy is two thirds to one third in my favour.

Erimar 22/02/2019 at 11:36 am

My husband of thirty years wants to divorce and sell the house and split it 50/50.
It is in joint names, he is living elsewhere and has a good job earning decent money. My daughter, her fiancée and four month old daughter have been living with me since October so can he force me to sell the house?

CA 11/01/2019 at 7:10 am

My partner and his ex own a property worth in excess of £500k. There is no mortgage on the property. He’s currently paying full rent on another property and maintenance for their 16 year old son, while his ex is living housing cost free in a house which is much too big for 2 people, both her and the son have said the house is a miserable lonely place to live now. He did cheat on her with me for a few months before they split up which she knows about.
She’s refusing to sell the house saying it’s the family home and she wants to stay there until the 16 year old leaves school even thought both say it’s not a nice place to live. The son has expressed a desire to sell and move on to his Dad. Wether that’s the same as he’s telling his Mum we don’t know. He needs to sell the property in order to buy a new house. Can he force her to sell? She’s going to see a soliciter, will a soliciter tell her she has to downsize or tell her to fight him?

lulu 10/01/2019 at 7:32 pm

hi my husband left our home 10 years agodue to adulltery we are now divorced he's 're married we both paid half morgage each my one daughter still lives with me also get daughter age 4 my daughter is having her end child in March but now my husband wants to sell house can he just sell house and we're do I stand please I'm so worried he has house with new wife please help

Deano 16/12/2018 at 2:34 pm

Hi my partner and I have split up after 20 years. We have 3 children 14, 12 and 4. We have a mortgage together but she refuses to sell. She says she doesn't have to as she has the kids more than me but i cant afford my own place ie rent and child maintenance its too much. I could afford a mortgage and maintenance but rent is just no option as i need the equity from the house.
My argument is that I also need a place with the children when i have them but she doesn't care about that bit.
In a nutshell can i make her sell.

Ian 22/10/2018 at 3:06 pm

Hi. Me and my wife separated nearly four years ago. I moved out of our jointly owned home and we continued to pay half of the mortgage each. I also pay the standard rate of child maintenance for our daughter and she has one 13 year old and one 19 year old(with a full time job) living with her. I have rented since our split but now want to buy a property with my new partner but obviously cannot get a mortgage as I already have one with the ex and the mortgage companies won't let me have another. What are the chances of me being successful in forcing the sale of the house with children still living there? I have asked her to look into taking over the mortgage which to be fair she has but was refused as she doesn't earn enough. Any advice would be really appreciated.

Strongbolt 01/10/2018 at 6:29 am

Hi, My wife made false allegations of DV and had a non mol put in place. Police dropped case but I no longer am allowed in the property as I took an undertaking. We have been married 12 years and have 2 children 6 and 7. I want to now divorce and want to force the sale of the house. We have 450k equity in the home, which is enough for both of us to split 60/40 in her favour and get our own places to live. My ex gave up work 4 years ago do to work grievance and never returned back but she can work and earn. Can I force a sale as there is enough equity?

Eugene 27/09/2018 at 4:10 pm

Hi, I'm a pensioner and my husband is a few years older than me. The problem is my husband would like to sell the house and move overseas.

I have a small pension which he has kept from me and has not returned and I would like to know what my options are. Can he really sell the house when the deeds are in both our names?

Our son also lives with us. He is a middle-aged managing his bi-polar condition via the GP and works in a local hospital. He regularly contributes 1/3 of all the bills in the house but I am concerned that with my husband deciding to sell, he has been threatening this for a long time, it might trigger his mental health problems again.

My son can look after himself but with his Banding in the hospital he cannot afford to move out as it is. The job is really good for him and I don't want all these things to complicate his progress. What do you suggest?

Shell 25/09/2018 at 9:34 am

I left my husband around 8yeasrs ago. We have 3 kids together. We have a house in both off our names. Which I keep for my kids. My husband had the house rent private to his girlfriend kids. Just wondering if I can still get my share of the house if we sell it

Shafted 11/09/2018 at 2:33 pm

Hi I left my wife after 19 years we have 4 children together youngest is 10 she sold my car when we split up £6 k now she is sitting in my house with £80 k equity and refusing to sell until my son is 18 I give her £600 pm csa she as never contributed to any bills in whole time we was together which is part reason why I left her now she refuses to get full time job as she says she gets more this way she goes out every weekend until 4 am leaving children on their own ,is their anyway I can force this horrible human being to give me half of my £80 k? I have £6 k of loans and my new partner is expecting any advise please?

RelationshipExpert Editor 17/08/2018 at 12:02 pm

You can refuse to sell. Where no agreement can be reached between you, only a court can then decide (if your ex wishes to take the matter to court). The fact you have been married for 38 years also means you have a claim to the business and any savings etc you both have. I suggest you seek legal advice.

MHC 17/08/2018 at 9:00 am

my husband has left me after 38 years of marriage. He is still working (his own building business) and also plays in a band several times a month earning him additional income. I have no income other than the Government Pension. He has paid no support at all since he left and he shut down all utilities etc which I have had to now have put in my name and pay myself. We have always paid 50/50 through our marriage until I retired in 2015 - but still I had to contribute as much as I could from my pension. That is my only income. He now wants to sell the property - can he force me? I have no means of purchasing another (my half of the property will be insufficient, but too much to be able to obtain any financial help or a council property. Many thanks

RelationshipExpert Editor 14/08/2018 at 9:55 am

To clarify the information in the article, if you are married, both spouses have an equal right to remain in the house. If you can’t agree how to split it on separation, then you will need to either suggest mediation as a way of coming to an agreement or refer the matter to court if you still cannot agree. If you have a child, the court will always put the child's interests first. Where finances allow, a court can allow the primary carer of the child to remain in the house with the child until the child leaves full-time education. Please also which offers further information.

Kat 13/08/2018 at 4:22 am

Hello, my husband wants to break up and sell our house, we have a 6 year old boy, my husband still lives in the house and will not move out, he is adiment I sell or I have to pay him the equity of the house, where do I stand? I don’t want to sell, as the house is a great location and our home. I’ve applied for a part time job with the hours of 34.5 a week which I’m hopefully going to get . I currently already work 30 hours a week, I’ve worked out I will just be able to afford all the bills on the money I earn now. Plus I’ve been offered a lot of support off family.

Jo Editor 13/07/2018 at 11:02 am

@missy - Unless your ex-husband can buy you out so that you can pay off/reduce the mortgage, then he would not be able to transfer the house. Someone has to pay the lender.

Missy. 12/07/2018 at 10:55 am

Hi, Me and my husband divorced in the early 90s, we had 3 children all under 4ys old when he had an affair and moved out to live with his new partner, the courts decided to award him 30% of the house because of the child support agency! He never paid a penny child support or had the children overnight! I paid all the bills including the mortgage for 25 years, i never asked him for anything and i didnt even go after a percentage of his pension, which i was entitled to, but 3 years ago my youngest child left home and he asked if he could come back to help me kerp the house for the children, he was living on his own in a flat at this time, so i agreed as i was only working part time and couldnt afford to pay all the bills, aldo i couldnt sell the house as there was a charge on the property for my legal bills that i couldnt afford to pay off...so i was in a catch 22 position. He said that he was going to transfer his share over to me but says he cant until the mortgage has been paid off, is this right or can it be signed over before that happens?

RelationshipExpert Editor 04/06/2018 at 10:29 am

Discussing this with your husband directly might be the way forward here, especially if your ex is refusing to pay. However, if you do not wish to take this approach, then it is up to you whether you take in a lodger (you don't need his consent). But you may need the consent of your mortgage lender and to change your home insurance policy. You can see more via which

Ginger 03/06/2018 at 10:30 am

My Husband left the marital home 6 mths ago after i discoverd he was having an affair.
He left on his own accord he was not forced to go. He now has not contributed to the mortgage for the last two months. I have filed for divorce and financial settlement to enable me to eventually buy him out of the property.
Whilst the mortgage is still in joint names but he doesn't contribute to anything my question is what are my rights to take a lodger to help with the bills and mortgage.

Jon 27/05/2018 at 8:55 am

Me and my ex split up 13 yrs ago after she cheated on me. We have 3 children, youngest is now 14. We have a joint mortgage. I moved out of the property and she moved her new fella in, since then they had a child together and split up. She hasn't worked since we split claiming benefits. I believe I've done the right thing in letting her stay in the home until my youngest is 18. But I think she's going to make things really awkward when youngest is 18 because I would like my share of the property to fund another home.

Gem Editor 14/05/2018 at 2:06 pm

@Flower - You can refuse to sell the house. If you refuse, then your husband would have to try to resolve the situation by applying to court. It is unlikely the courts will force the sale.

Flower 11/05/2018 at 6:44 pm

My husband wants to move to Spain,l don't.he wants to sell the home to get the money to go..l will have to go into rented cos he doesn't want to buy again.away over the winter to start with then permanent.l don't want any of this but feel like 'll being manipulated to follow what he wants.we have 3 dogs and a 18year old at home also.l had a stroke in 2016 and d all the stress of this is frightening me and wearing me out.where do l stand?what do l do?

RelationshipExpert Editor 13/04/2018 at 2:46 pm

It is unlikely a court would force you to sell the house. Usually, a court would rule that the primary carer can stay in the family home with the children until the youngest leaves full-time education. In your situation with five children, a court is unlikely to force you to move. You can see more which

Sanah 12/04/2018 at 11:36 pm

Hi my has left me with 5 kids and one of my child is disabled my husband is forcing me to sell the house so he can have his share and move on ,we have no mortgage and the house is on joint names.
I wanted to ask can he force me to sell.
my youngest is 4years old and I have a disabled child who is 13 years old ?

RelationshipExpert Editor 12/04/2018 at 11:55 am

I am sorry to hear of your illnesses. However, a court will not go out to punish your husband financially for leaving your marriage (if he chooses to take the matter to court). If your husband owns half the house and has been paying the mortgage then he is entitled to a financial claim on the house. However, court is always seen as a last resort and if you can try to resolve the issues outside of court then it will be a lot less costly for both of you in legal/court fees etc. As your ex has money locked in the property that he is entitled to claim. Much depends upon whether he makes steps to apply to court to try to claim it and it will be dependent upon what the court decides (which we cannot possibly predict).

N/A 11/04/2018 at 7:03 pm

My husband left me in April 2016 so he could be with another woman. We had been married for almost 27 yrs. I have never worked and I have health problems including Depression, Anxiety and a rare type of Cancer. I share my home with our daughter, who will turn 28yrs old this month, and our son, who will be 24yrs old in September. The home myself and my husband decided to buy from the Council. We still have a joint mortgage which my daughter has recently started to pay because my husband has stopped the payments. My solicitor has informed my husbands solicitor of my health issues and stated that I have a letter from my GP stating it is in my best interest to remain in my home. This is not being accepted by my husbands solicitor because he has told them that I have posted all over Facebook that I have been given the all clear from the Cancer specialist. This is not true. At the beginning of the year I received a letter stating that my husband is willing to sign the house over to me for a £10,000 pound settlement fee. My solicitor informed them that I don't have that kind of money and so they have taken steps for financial relief proceedings to be issued. Can I be forced to sell my home just so he can have some money for walking out on me for another woman

RelationshipExpert Editor 16/01/2018 at 3:11 pm

If you disagree with what your ex husband is requesting, then his only option would be to apply to court to try to force the sale. As a rule, the court where possible will attempt to prevent disruption while your children are in full-time education. However, you may wish to seek legal advice in order to explore your options, as much depends upon other contributing circumstances also.

Tanni 15/01/2018 at 11:02 pm

My ex wants me to sell the house and won’t wait for my 11 year old to finish her education. I have three children and still have to complete my education to become a fully qualified teacher. He is working and has been living in a four bedroom house with his parents for seven years and second wife via an Islamic marriage.
He has stated he will tell the court he wants to buy another property and move out with his wife and needs the equity from the matrimonial home we both own. He actually has no intention of moving out of his parents as culturally he is of the belief he must live with them always. I have asked him to wait and sell house when youngest is 18 but he refuses to agree.

Simples 21/10/2017 at 11:09 am

Hi, I split from my partner of 8 years 4 months after buying our first property.
She paid the deposit of £70000 and I took out mortgage £120000 and added her on to it.

A deed of trust is in place which states when the property is sold it should be split 69% to her 31% to me.

It also indemnifys us if one doesn't pay there share of the mortgage the other will cover it.

Due to the split my ex lives In the property with my daughter and soon to be born baby of her new partner pays £530pcm mortgage.

I rent a room at £500pcm elsewhere.

As I am unable to live in our property I don't contribute to the mortgage and my ex has now stopped me seeing my daughter as I will not sign the house over to her for free.

My point is by us splitting doesn't mean I give up my investment in the property however she's told me she will take me to court to have me forced to sign the deed over.

Is this possible?

I was under the impression her only option would be to buy me out?

Thank you in advance for your help.

Tammy 13/08/2017 at 9:32 pm

My husband left due to me being pregnant with our 1st child. I got a loan of 23000 for the deposit of our home is he entitled to this. I have debt of 30,000 from holidays and our wedding it's in my name and was affordable until he left now I am blacklisted. I can buy him out minus the deposit but can't take his name off the mortgage so he wants to force me to sell so he can buy with his girlfriend. I'm paying the mortgage not him our baby is 7 months old now can he force me to sell?. His girlfriend is paying his solicitor I can't afford one as most my money goes to the mortgage so any advice is welcome

RelationshipExpert Editor 01/08/2017 at 2:50 pm

It may be advisable for your daughter to seek legal advice regarding this. Often a court will allow the primary carer of the children to remain in the house. But it would be down to a court to determine what it thinks is in the best interests of the children

newliverbird 01/08/2017 at 8:56 am

Hi I am so worried about my daughter, her and her husband split up last year and he moved out no one was really to blame. They have 2 children between them 7 and 9 my 7yr grandson is autistic. The day he left he stopped contributing to the mortgage and bills he does give my daughter £350 maintenance which is going to be less soon as he has cut his hours at work. He is now trying to force her to sell the house as he wants his half and has threatened to come off of mortgage, and has said he has been to the bank and said she wouldn't get a mortgage. This will leave my daughter and children homeless and having to live in rented accommodation. He also says he is going to enter the property with a few estate agents to value the house, my daughter had the house valued when he left as this is what her solicitior advised he said he wants an up to date one. Can he really force my daughter to sell .Please help me as this is really causing my daughter health issues she works 35 hours a week.. He has a girlfriend which he moved in with 3 months after they split up and she is on benefits but now he is there he is paying for her bills.

RelationshipExpert Editor 14/07/2017 at 12:19 pm

You would have to take the matter to court if you cannot agree between you. I suggest you take legal advice first, as a court may allow your ex wife to stay in the house until your daughter leaves full-time education. The court will always put your child and what it thinks is in her best interests first in such a case. However, a judge can stop your ex from moving another person in, if the reasons you have against her doing this are justifiable and especially if you have a solicitor's agreement between you to back this up.

shamma 13/07/2017 at 7:38 pm

Hi,I own a home with my x wife,we divorced 7years ago but she still lives at the property with my 14 year old daughter,since I was forced out of the property due to her infidelity,she was having an affair she has been engaged 3 times,they all have cohabited their ,I have proof as all on electoral roll,and now I found out she is getting married in two months,I said she could keep a roof over daughters head,mortgage is now interest only,since the day I left,repayment in the 6years I was their,I paid off over 40 grand,she hasn't paid a penny,just interest £300, a month for a 4 bed semi for last 8 years,but has had at least 3 holidays a year abroad,with her 3 fiancees,I have written through solicitors over last 3years explaining we didn't agree to let other men live in property,she ignored,I have had enough now she is getting married,I want half equity of the property around £50 grand,if she can't afford can I force the sale to get my equity??
Look forward to your response,

Thankyou

Di 03/07/2017 at 9:06 am

my husband and I have our property in separate names. We have an equity release loan on the property. If he gets into debt can I be made to sell my share of the house to help clear his debts Thank you

Shel 16/06/2017 at 6:15 pm

me and my ex split up 8 years go and he signed his half of house over to me and i i sold the prooerty and bought another in my name since we have divorced and my new house uo for sale and he trying to claim his half can he do that

RelationshipExpert Editor 16/06/2017 at 3:26 pm

If you are separating and you both own the house, then your husband may be able to apply to court to force the sale.

bj 07/06/2017 at 8:47 pm

hi
I have split from my husband and we are now divorced however we have a joint mortgage we have been to mediation and agreed a settlement figure and a timescales of 12 months of this to be paid. he has now changed his mind as he says I cant raise the money against the equity. this was never the plan my new partner has offered to sell his property and pay off the settlement. This as now been explained and the address of the property that is on the market given to his solicitors. He is now saying he will take to court to force the sale of the property. even though we are only 3 months into the mediation agreement. he as now changed the goal post. my question is who will pay the court costs and will a judge force the sale as we don't want to be selling the other property if we cant keep this property as we will have no where to live

lele 02/06/2017 at 6:05 pm

both me and my ex husband name is on the house he said he will force me to sell my house because he want's his name off the house he don't want his credit ruined can he force me to sell it I am not in the best of health not working at this time but payments are current.

RelationshipExpert Editor 18/05/2017 at 1:49 pm

I'm afraid you would need to seek legal advice regarding this because of the many variants i.e the children being your ex's stepchildren and not biological, whether there is any equity in the house, the amount you have both financially contributed to the home. The easiest way to move forward is to come to a mutual agreement and/or sell the house and pay off the mortgage and split any equity. However, life is not always as straightforward and if you can't agree the last resort is court. If there are children involved then their well-being will be the primary concern of the court. However, the court will also consider both parties' financial circumstances when making a decision. I assume your husband will not wish to be tied into a mortgage of a house he no longer lives in. In certain circumstances (if the children are biologically his, he can be made to continue to pay). However, as he has no parental responsibility of the children, then he is not obligated to pay towards their long term financial upkeep.

Vxr888 17/05/2017 at 10:39 pm

My husband has left the marriage. We've been together a while and have been living together 18 months but married less than a year...
We are both on the mortgage and own the house together.
I do not work as I'm a stay at home mum, he has a good job paying well.
Can he force the sale of the home to split equity?
I am living in the property with my two children (his step-children.)
What would a court decide?
If I stayed in the home would he be responsible for a proportion of the mortgage too?
I am not in a position to buy him out or take on the mortgage on my own.
I'm scared I'll be forced out with the children...
Help!

RelationshipExpert Editor 02/05/2017 at 11:11 am

If your marriage has been long and you were married and have a son with your ex, then the house is less likely to be wholly considered a non-marital asset (an asset your husband owns outright). This means you will have a claim both financially and it is likely a court would allow you to stay in the house until your son leaves full-time education at 18, as a court will always put the child's best interests first. A court may try to prevent another partner moving into to the house. However, we can't specify what it may decide with regards to other factors.

Ani 01/05/2017 at 3:38 pm

My husband and I are separated. He left the family home 6 months ago and wants me to sell so he can get some equity to buy another house. The house is in his name but was our 'marital home', I contributed financially to it and raised our son there. My son is 14 and I have an adult child from another partner living here too. He has a substantially bigger earning potential than me, and has chosen to only see our son twice a week for a few hours. Would a court permit us to stay until our son is 18?

While we try to reach an agreement, can he tell me what to do in the house? Can he stop me from getting a lodger or becoming a foster parent?

Wow 27/03/2017 at 11:20 am

My husband left me 3 years ago. I'm nearly 60 I foster. I have 3 adult children at home who cant afford to get on the property ladder. He wants me to sell house, if I do I will not be able to buy enother property, won't have enough funds. I'm In a IVA because of the debt he left me. I've met a man now who has 3 adult children, who lives with his mum he has no property either. Is there help out there or can he force me to move?

RelationshipExpert Editor 22/03/2017 at 12:35 pm

If there has been no financial agreement regarding the jointly owned property, then he could suggest family arbitration prior to court. Family arbitration is a method of dispute resolution in which a third party will gather evidence, mediate between your brother and his ex and make a decision about the split of the finances (which is deemed final and overseen by the courts). However, if your brother's ex refuses all communication, then he would have to apply to take the matter to court and the court will decide what happens to the house.

Lindy lou 21/03/2017 at 10:27 pm

My brother and his wife have recent divorced but both continue to live In the same house .His ex won't agree to him buying her out or selling with 50/50 split.
There are no children Involved as they have left the home.
The situation is dire and other than him walking away and losing everything as the house would be 're possessed he doesn't know what to do.

RelationshipExpert Editor 21/03/2017 at 11:08 am

If you are married, all assets are considered jointly owned. If you bought your house pre-marriage, it is likely to be considered a pre-marital asset and in all likelihood will remain owned by you, unless your husband can prove he has financially invested into the property. With regards to your debts, if they are in joint names then each party is individually liable for the whole remaining balance of the debt. This means a creditor can pursue either, or both parties until the debt is cleared in full. If you are the primary carer of your children, then a court may allow you to remain in your current home with the children (if the matter goes to court). However, this does not solve the issue of paying your debts between you and your husband. Therefore, professional legal advice would be useful here.

Olafi 20/03/2017 at 11:31 am

Me and my husband are going through a divorce. We have bought share ownership apartment which 99% of the deposit was mine. We have two boys age 7 and 2 and live there for 6 years. We are both on the conract. We have £35000 dept and my husband wants to sell the house pay off depts and split in half. Shall we split in half even I brought most of the money for deposit? Can he force me to sell it? I also have big house abroad which partly is under my name can he seek some money from this also?
Thank you

Dawn 19/03/2017 at 1:27 am

My question is my ex and I are about to go through a divorce we have four children three living at home I am severely disabled with half spinal cord and it just going through my fourth spinal cord surgery he is also disabled and works on the side off the books I've had 23 restraining orders on in feet from assault and battery from you lying about me and having me arrested and so on now he's decided he wants a pot of my 40 P he is not listed on the title whatsoever and I support the three children

RelationshipExpert Editor 10/03/2017 at 11:08 am

Your daughter would have to seek legal advice regarding this. If your daughter owned the house prior to marriage, in theory it is considered a non-marital asset (owned by your daughter and not deemed part of a divorce settlement). However, in practice, it is not quite as straightforward and much will depend upon how much her husband has invested into the house financially (i.e the likes of home improvements, restoration, refurbishment etc) and this 'may' be taken into consideration should the matter go to court. Therefore, a legal professional will give your daughter more insight into her rights and options and the probability of whether her ex may be successful if he made a claim.

sheila 09/03/2017 at 9:04 am

my daughters husband has left her and wants 50% of the house the house was hers before she married him she was a single mum to a girl 2 years after marrying him she found out he had £40.000 debt which he hid from her her daughter is 20 now is he entitled to force her to sell her home so he can have his half they have been married 10 yrs

Tjtommy 16/01/2017 at 9:03 pm

Hi so me and partner are separating. He told me I can buy him out as he can't afford the morgage. We had three valuations including one from the morgage lender. 197000. 190000and 195000. I offered 195000. He said no and wants on the market to try make more money. Can I force him to accept my buy out?

RelationshipExpert Editor 09/12/2016 at 2:40 pm

If there is a dispute, you would have to either seek legal advice or take the matter to arbitration. The contributions you have both made with regards to the finances will be assessed as well as your co-ownership of the house. If you cannot buy your ex out, you may be forced to sell dependent upon the amount your ex is considered to be owed.

Kel 03/12/2016 at 2:55 pm

Our house was in negative equity when we split and behind with the mortgage. I paid off the arrears which took me two years now house has got equity he has demanded it be sold and half the profit. The mortgage is in both our names but he has never paid anything at all since he left. I had to leave the house because he had a court order not to come near me as he was violent he left a week later and I went back and staeyed We have no children can he make me sell and claim half the equity. I paid all arrears on my own and kept paying mortgage on my ow which I can prove.

Whatamigoingtodo 23/11/2016 at 1:12 pm

Me and my wife have recently separated. We've been married just over 4 years. There are 2 children involved. One who she came into the relationship with and my son whom we had together. I am the only person on the mortgage and and my wife hasn't worked so has not contributed anything. She wants to keep the house and has made false allegations to the police and had an injunction against me stopping me being at my property. My question is can I force a sale as I no longer want to be there or married to her. She has always told me she would stay in the house while I pay for it until my son is 18. As I cannot move on. Rebuy a property and only have equity in my property what can I do ?

me 05/11/2016 at 12:22 am

My wife walked out 8 weeks ago and took the kids to her mothers. She has decided that she wants a divorce and to go our seperate ways. I work 4 on 4 off so we have been sharing care of the children 2 and 12 almost equally. Her mums is a big house, she has a room and so do the kids. She says i can buy her out or sell up because she wants her share. I have no chance of borrowing enough to buy her out. I know with us both being on the mortgage she cant force me to sell either. She earns about £700 a month and I have been giving her as much for years. if i sell, which i dont want to because it is the kids home, then i walk away with a deposit. If i dont can she get a court to give her the house and I be left with nothing until they are 18? she cant afford or get a mortgage for it, could i be forced to cover that too?

RelationshipExpert Editor 04/11/2016 at 12:57 pm

It is unlikely the court will make you sell the house if you are the resident parent of yours and your ex's child. However, much depends upon how long you had been married, whether you owned the house prior to marriage, whether you have any children with her who live with her and do not live with you. You may wish to seek legal advice in order to clarify your position.

Maik 03/11/2016 at 4:06 pm

My ex wife want sell my house the mortgage is only my name and we divorce in 2010 she make court order to sell house but I live with wife and a child 7 year old and my disabled mother over 75 year old
Can she make sell it by court she never make eny payments and she been married now 4 years now plz let me know

RelationshipExpert Editor 27/09/2016 at 3:06 pm

I am sorry to hear this. You would have to seek legal advice regarding this, but effectively, yes he could request that you sell the house in order to release his equity.

supergirl 27/09/2016 at 12:21 pm

My husband of 26 years recently walked out after confessing to having a 3 month affair to live with his new partner. Currently I am still living in the marital home with our adult son, presently he is still contibuting to some of the household bills. My concern is as we don't have dependents, can he make me sell the house when he chooses. At present I would not be able to buy him out to cover his share of the equity in the house and pay the remainder of the morgage.
I do know at present they are renting.

Nikki 27/08/2016 at 10:17 pm

Me and my husband are going though a bad time at the moment we are both on the mortgage but it was my home and mortgage before we married I would like to know where I stand in this if we separate do I still have to pay him 50/50 we both pay the mortgage together but all other bills we pay seperate ie I pay water,shopping,our sons clothes etc , outstanding clubs, plus I had to give my job up on medicial grounds and now claim pip I'm classed as disabled ...my husband don't give me money anymore like he used to to help with food etc he binge drinks and claims I've buried my head in the sand and have made him mental too.

RelationshipExpert Editor 29/07/2016 at 2:29 pm

If you have no children, then you should seek legal advice if your wife is being awkward about not selling. Your ex would have to have to be able to buy you out if she wants to keep the house when you want to sell. Otherwise, a court can issue an order for you both to sell if you wish to release any equity and relieve yourself from the responsibility of the mortgage.

Fatstarsky 28/07/2016 at 9:10 pm

My wife and I own our own home, I pay the mortgage and most of the utilities. We do not have children. I want to separate, sell the house and split the equity 50 / 50. She doesn't want to sell but wants me just to walk away. She can't afford the mortgage but states she will get a lodger. I've paid far more in, and will except a 50/50 split. Can I force the sale of the house?

Jarvis 28/05/2016 at 2:12 pm

Me and my partner hav recently split up and I'm living back at home. I wna sell the house but he's doesn't but I'm not Gna pay the mortgage when I'm not living there especially when he kicked me out! So do I need to take him to court?

RelationshipExpert Editor 25/05/2016 at 12:30 pm

You would have to seek legal advice regarding this as much would have to do about what your ex paid into the property (such as deposits etc) in the first place.

Gaz 24/05/2016 at 7:09 pm

Myself and ex partner had bought a place 8 years ago and after 2 years we split up. The property at the time was in negative equity. We paid half and half for the mortgage at the time but she has not paid since she has moved out.
How much can she claim for

RelationshipExpert Editor 17/05/2016 at 11:24 am

She can stop you from selling the house if your children live with your ex, as it is unlikely a court would force the sale until your youngest finishes education. Regardless of you paying all the bills in the past, the house is still considered a joint property due to you being married.

Bouty 16/05/2016 at 1:41 pm

I own my house solely and was thrown out by my wife in December, I have always paid all of the bills and mortgage without her help. I want to sell the property so I can get myself somewhere else and I understand she will be entitled to at least half as my 15 and 17 year old children live with her. Can she stop me from selling the house?

Top Cat 06/05/2016 at 7:18 pm

My husband and I separated in 2009.We typed up an agreement which was signed by both of us and someone as a witness saying he would make no claim on the house or contents and that he would receive a sum of ten thousand pounds payable in instalments until I could pay the balance.Also agreed that the mortgage would be transferred into my name subject to the mortgage company approval.My sister is arranging to increase her mortgage to pay mine off but the house will go into her name (not a problem for me)He has had five thousand pounds and is now saying that he won't accept the balance left but wants another ten thousand as he wants to buy a house otherwise he will sell the house.This will make me homeless as I'm now a carer and on low pay and can't afford rent as it is more than I'm paying for my mortgage.He has contributed nothing since we split. Can he do this?

Lou 05/05/2016 at 4:59 pm

My partner and I are splitting up. We own a property together, but have agreed that I will stay and his name will be taken off the mortgage and deeds. We have made £10,000 on the property since we purchased it. Is he entitled to half of the profit, as well as the money he put towards the deposit? My understanding was he was only entitled to the profit.

Mouse 23/04/2016 at 4:56 pm

Hello I really need some advice . 5 years ago I took the agonising step of separating from my Husband of 20 yrs. I had to leave my daughters 14 and 16 in the family home as to move them at such a time would have been disruptive to them due to school exams. I agreed with my Husband that I would wait 5 years regarding my share of the house and he said he would then buy me out. Since then I have struggled living in a rented property and working long hours in a low paid job. He on the other hand has been earning vastly more than me. I had no savings to fall back on as prior to my leaving I had been a full time mother since the birth of our children and was financialy under his control. The 5 year mark has now arrived and the house has been valued but having applied to the bank to remortgage the house in order to pay me my share( the mortgage has just finished hence the 5 year agreement) he has been turned down. He has applied for half the amount and that has also been turned down. He is also now saying that one of the 3 pensions he had and had agreed to transfer to me during mediation due to my not having one as a fulltime mum he doesn't think he should have to give me. I do not know what to do or where to turn. I cannot afford to carry on like this I am sinking fast having kept going as best I could. I cannot afford a solicitor as all the ones I have contacted want payment in advance. I was entitiled to legal aid but my firm of solicitors went into administration 3 weeks before the law changed and the new ones took too long to submit the forms so I lost my entitlement. I would be most grateful for any advice. Thankyou

pict 23/03/2016 at 5:11 pm

my husband and i own our house jointly , mortgage paid my ,husband could be facing damages in a scottish civil court woul we have to sell the family home to pay these damages and if house in my name could the court make me sell

pussycat 23/01/2016 at 6:48 pm

My friends husband lives in his own flat and has another partner and children separate to his wife and their 4 children aged 17, 14, 7 and 2. He is threatening to sell the house which they are both on the mortgage for which he has not contributed to in over 7 years. Can he sell the house leaving them homeless?

overwhelmed and in n 15/01/2016 at 12:52 am

I have been divorced nearly 2 years, a Scots law do it yourself divorce. We split up all our assets amicably enough. Apart from the house, which was bought with money from my dad, in my name before we were married but we were together. He wants £30,000 and I verbally agreed to give it to him, meaning I would have to sell the house. I haven't sold the house, I've been doing it up for a better chance of selling or leasing. He is in financial trouble, including debt carried over from our marriage and he is demanding £15000 now and £15000 very soon. But I can't raise that amount without selling the house but I can't sell the house that quickly! I can't get a loan because of my poor financial state, as a result of our relationship and I haven't been able to earn much money. He is threatening me with lawyers and bad mouthing me and is about to go public with his version of our broken down relationship, which is not my version and I feel is totally violating my privacy and abusing confidentiality rights. But maybe he's allowed, I don't know. I am so stressed and anxious about it. Can you give me any suggestions please, thank you.

Del 08/01/2016 at 8:21 pm

I'm thinking of buying a house with my partner. He has got his own house which he would rent. I have got a 5yr old and a 21 yr old son in which my partner his not there dad. my eldest son girlfriend will be living with us. They will pay towards the mortgage. If we ever did split up would he be able to make m e sell the property.

S 30/12/2015 at 8:00 pm

My wife and I have split up after 16 years and 5 being married. My wife has a daughter of 17 which I have supported through this time. Do I legally have to keep supporting her now even though I will not be in the marital home?

Al 21/12/2015 at 9:25 am

My wife split up with me over a year ago, just before she received £30k from her mum (that she knew was coming). She had been overly friendly with a colleague from her work before the split, and they now seem to be living together.

We had bought her dads house off him to pay off his massive debts. I paid roughly £50k in refurbishing the house to accommodate him in a granny flat. Between buying the house and her splitting up with me i had paid off approximately £35k of the mortgage on my own. She only paid for the phone line with and broadband. I paid all other bills.

I also bought her a £10k car which she wrote off and bought a similar car using the insurance money. Her name is on the V5, and she is refusing to give this back, despite me driving a £350 car.

Since the split, i have moved into the granny flat and her dad has moved in with her. She has been paying half the mortgage and bills since the split to the present day (monthly in areas, this month is still waiting to be paid).
She is now claiming that she can no longer afford to pay her half of the bills and mortgage. Also she claims that the £30k her mum gave her has all gone. She has also written off the replacement car that she got.
Her weed smoking boyfriend seems to have moved in with her, into the house that i paid for, did up and have been paying the morgage on. And i live right next door to them.
I cannot divorce her as she will not accept adultery as a reason. I had no other unreasonable behaviour reasons to split up with her. So she is meant to be divorcing me. I have not received any correspondence on this matter.

What do i do?
It looks like they both want to free load off me. I have lost all my inheritance money from my parents, yet she never shared the money her mum gave her.
I do not want the guy she finished with me for, living in my house. Can i prevent this? Please help.

Jamesy 19/12/2015 at 6:43 pm

Hi

My ex husband and I separated and divorced. I had to buy the house my 14 year old son and I live in in joint names with my ex in2006 we both put in 5000 each
He has paid nothing towards the mortgage and only one year in maintenance towards our son but yet he wants me to sell to gain half of the equity. He has pressurised me into selling by spreading untrue rumours in order to force us out of our home any comments welcome

RelationshipExpert Editor 04/11/2015 at 10:37 am

I suggest you take some legal advice regarding this matter, as despite the house being in your husband's name, you will be entitled to a portion of the estate and a say regarding whether you sell or not, or whether you should remain in the house. For instance, a court 'may' decide to let you stay in the house with your children, until your children are of age, as a court will always rule towards what is in the best interests of your children. Also, much will depend on your joint financial situation and whether you are behind in payments. You could also suggest mediation to your ex, as this may resolve the issue without it having to go to court (as the court will suggest mediation anyway in the first instance). Please see link to article: Mediation: What is it and is it For Me? whichI hope this helps.

Dv 03/11/2015 at 12:52 am

My husband and I have been separated for two years now. We have two children age 7 and 10. We decided I would stay in the house to give the children stability and he would rent. The mortgage is in his name only however I pay the full amount into his account every month by standing order. He assured me it would stay this way until I was in a financial position to get a mortgage in my name. He has now got himself into debt due to a lot of parting/holidays he's had and has decided he wants to sell the house. Can I do anything or do we have to move out? The children are really upset that we will become homeless :( I'm so worried and never thought he'd go back on his word and do this to us.

RelationshipExpert Editor 30/10/2015 at 11:49 am

This is a tricky question to answer as it can lead to unfairness on one party, if the one parent is allowed to remain in the house and the other has to contribute both to their own rent and the mortgage. It of course can lead to arguments and bad feeling, when one parent feels they are having to unjustly pay more than their fair share. If you cannot agree between you, or through mediation, then in these circumstances it quite often has to go to court in order to settle the dispute. However, in your favour the court may rule that you can stay in the house in order to cause less disruption to the children. The court may agree on a date when the house should be sold. Plus, in the meantime, if any, what your ex's contribution to the mortgage should be, who is allowed to live in the house, and level of equity he is eligible for, once the house is sold.

MRS_L 28/10/2015 at 11:37 pm

My husband and I seperated 6 months ago and he moved out of the family home into rented accommodation. We have 2 children age 6 & 2 who stay with him 3 nights a week and he gives me maintenance for.
At first he was helping to contribute towards the mortgage as I was only working 2 mornings a week. Since then I have got a job with more hours and am able to claim tax credits which help to cover the cost of the mortgage and bills as he no longer contributes towards these.

He now says he no longer wants to rent and would like to get his ow. House and mortgage.

I wanted to ask whether he can force me to sell the family house in order to release some equity from the proceeds to put towards a deposit for a new house and also if he should be contributing towards the mortgage as he is still a joint owner?

RelationshipExpert Editor 23/10/2015 at 11:47 am

I can only suggest you obtain some professional legal advice regarding this, as it is a complicated set of circumstances which makes it difficult for me to answer without knowing other background facts which might influence any case. You could suggest trying to solve the issue through mediation, so that you can both come out of the situation without having accrued too much of a loss. However, if your circumstances have changed, (i.e your fostering children) then there may be a possibility of taking this to court in order to let the court decide what should happen.

Su 22/10/2015 at 11:44 am

My husband and I separated sept 2014 and the house was put on the market. I have a declaration of trust protecting my financial input into the purchase of the house as my ex husband is a bankrupt. The house has not sold and my ex has indicated he is going to stop paying his half, although the declaration of trust has an indemnity in it saying we will not put the property at risk. so I have begun a new career path (fostering) which will enable me to pay the mortgage and costs on my own. Can he force me to sell the house, if the house sells he will receive 0.01% of any profit after my protected investment (which currently stands at 27p). I cannot transfer the mortgage into my own name as I currently do not earn sufficient. I have offered him a lump sum (payable when the house sells in 15 years) to leave his name on the mortgage and I would also agree to indemnify him against costs etc and would leave him free to get his own place, as he is living with him mum, which was his choice to leave. If I can stay in the house I can foster a sibling group of 3, and do something good. I had hoped he would do the right thing but he has become nasty.

Am I being unreasonable? I thought the offer was fair as he would come out of it, albeit after 15 years, with a lump sum.

ME 16/10/2015 at 11:05 pm

Hi please can someone give me some advice. My friend was with his ex for 20 years, after 15 years he put her on the mortgage. During this time she has never paid a penny towards it. They have now split and 10 months later his is still paying the full mortgage and his own rent. He has asked his ex a number of times to pay half the mortgage but she refused, so due to this he wants to sell the house. She has changed the locks to the house and he now is unable to access his own home. He has asked her to sell, which she agreed but now is refusing. They have child together who is almost 17. What are his rights? Can she do this?

Jen 13/10/2015 at 3:29 pm

My husband and I separated 4years ago following many years of his adultry and he has signed the house over to me to avoid his mistress trying to make a claim on it if I should die first. We want our children to have it.
I paid and the solicitor arranged for the Land register to be changed into my sole name.
We have been married for 44years and are not devorced. If I want to sell the house can he take half?
If we were devorced would the situation be the same?

FionaD 23/09/2015 at 1:59 pm

@Martin C - If you don't agree with your ex's requests, then you don't have to accept them. Her solicitor is going to try it on. If there were previous court orders, they should still stand. She can take it to court to force the sale, but it doesn't mean the courts will accept it over the court order agreed for sale in 2017. You had an agreement and unless she has a good reason to change the agreement, the court still might want to keep to it. You really need legal advice.

Martin C 15/07/2015 at 10:11 pm

Hi, Could I have some advise please.

I divorced 3.5 years ago and my wife moved out. We came to a private financial agreement (stupidly didnt get it signed legalised in court). The arrangement was signed by both of us and witnessed.

Within the agreement I agreed to pay the joint mortgage and secured loan and my ex kept an additional £10,000 from our settlement for her share of the equity in the house.

Due to being in an IVA I wasnt able to take her off the mortgage and within the agreement I agreed to take on a new mortgage or sell the property in July 2017. All financial equity at the time would transfer to me as she had been paid for her equity.

All payments have been made in full by me and on time to the mortgage companies. Last week I recieved a letter from her solicitor asking for the property to be sold now and claiming that she now was seeking 60% of the equity!

Any advise or guidance would be appreciated please.

Can she force the sale immediately or do we need to have a settlement agreed in court before she can force sale? She has been living with her new partner for about 2 years now.

Swhite 08/07/2015 at 10:40 pm

My husband want me and our two children to move out of our home.we both own our home and he has paid the mortgage payments and myself the utilities. However we cannot renew our mortgage due to accounts problems and have been advised it would take another year before being able to do this. I earn only £9,000 per year and my husband £50,000. I am worried why he is forcing me out ,he says we have to sell but is adamant we leave first. Am I doing the right thing by leaving our home?

josie 06/06/2015 at 10:49 am

My partner and I have no relationship anymore but still live in the same house he wants to sell but I don't he bought the house and added me on the mortgage a few years later I don't work due to claiming disability as I have anxiety attacks when I leave my home he has always paid the mortgage and the household bills from his own personal account we have two grown up children but only 1 lives with us . Can he make me sell the house as he cannot start again without the money from the sale of the property

RelationshipExpert Editor 10/04/2015 at 1:53 pm

@Ammars - I am sorry to hear this. In addition to the advice in the article, if you have decided to divorce then these issues will be decided a solicitor or courts, which can also include a maintenance order and what should be done with the house. In the meantime, as there are no cut and dry rules about how divorcing couples conduct their finiancial and family affairs, it really is up to the both of you to work it out. Are you still on speaking terms with him? If so, it helps, as it means you can come to a mutual decision that hopefully benefits you both curently and over the long term. If you are not, you may want to try Mediation. Mediation is a voluntary process used to settle disputes, when two parties are unable to agree on a family or domestic matter (which includes financial and contact arrangements with the children). It is overseen by a neutral third party who would work with you both individually with the aim of coming to a signed mutually agreed solution to your issues. Failing that, you could take it to court and the court will determine who will live in the house and what should happen to it over a period of time. This is a two-way relationship with both of you having parental responsibility and rights to your children, as well as a financial interest in your estate, if you can work it out between you all the better. I hope this helps.

Ammars 08/04/2015 at 8:52 pm

My husband of 15 years walked out 2 weeks ago after conducting a relationship with another woman (also married). This relationship has now broken down. The mortgage is in both our names. He earns around £82,000 and I earn £37,000 so I have always contributed towards mortgage and utility bills. We have 2 small children aged 7 and 10. Can he force me to sell the house; can he stop paying the mortgage; how long can the children and I live in our family home before we have to leave it - there is no way on earth I could pay the mortgage on my own!

RelationshipExpert Editor 06/03/2015 at 10:28 am

@shezza - apart from the advice given in this article, I have included a link from our partner Divorce Resource site: What to Do with the Family Home? whichI hope this helps.

shezza 03/03/2015 at 8:08 am

hi my husband wants a divorce the mortgage is in his name only. I have a child that's lives with us from a previous relationship and I'm pregnant with my husbands baby.
He has 2 children from previous relationship whom only come to stay every other week there main home is their mums. Do I have to leave the home and is it unreasonable to claim any money from him once divorced

RelationshipExpert Editor 13/02/2015 at 11:03 am

@Scott - I don't really understand your question, but if you are planning to leave your husband and register for a divorce then you will be entitled a portion of the marital estate. You do not have to leave the house if you do not want to as it is still partially owned by you. If you need any extra advice I suggest you make an appointment to see a legal expert. I hope this helps.

Scott 12/02/2015 at 8:07 am

My husband name is the only name on the mortgage and we have been married three years. We have a daughter together who's two And a child who is not his aged 7 I am also 5 months pregnant. He mum and dad gave us the deposit but hid dad forced me to sign a scrap piece of paper saying I would not go after the business or my husband other property he rents out he had five cars aswell . Will I have to leave the house with my children and unborn child

RelationshipExpert Editor 12/01/2015 at 1:58 pm

@little teddy - if you own your house jointly you may be able to force the sale of the property, especially if specified in a previous court order. It would mean your ex would apply to the courts to allow for the property to be sold, along with a timescale within which it should be sold.

little teddy 10/01/2015 at 1:06 pm

I need some advice please. My ex husband and I divorced in 2006. We have a 9 year old son who lived with me at the time of the divorce but now lives with my ex. We had a home purchased with an endowment mortgage of £67,500 and the title deeds of the property were signed over into my sole name. My ex cashed in the endowment policy and I have no entitlement to the proceeds or to his pension funds. I'm now paying the interest on the mortgage. My ex is still named on the mortgage and wants me to obtain his release from the mortgage. In the court order it states that I must use my best efforts to release him. I don't earn enough money to take the mortgage over and he knows this. I have consulted the bank twice to try to get him released and been refused both times. My ex is now threatening to take me to court to force the sale of the property. Can he do this and would he be likely to win?

Willow 26/10/2014 at 6:17 am

I was wondering if someone can tell me what would have to happen if myself and my husband divorced? I bought a house in my name and my parents paid the deposit. We got married when we were living together and now because of unforeseen circumstances I think we will end up going our separate ways. We do have a child together but I am worried he can just make me sell the house and give him half when its not in his name nor did he help pay for the deposit?

berryjune 29/09/2014 at 1:46 pm

My husband left for another after being married for 27 years, we own the house between us and have 2 1/2 years left paying the endowment part only as all the rest is settled, we have no children living at home now, I am 68 and classed as disabled due to arthritis.he is still supporting me by paying all utilities . When mortgage is finished , can he make me sell as I am on my own.

ali 23/08/2014 at 7:11 pm

my husband left two months ago and moved in with a woman who has two kids. He wants to sell house and split proceeds.I have been recieving wftc ctc since he left £700 per month and earn £680 per month. we have 2 children under 16 living with me. I had no idea he was going to walk out on us. We have remortgaged our house over the years and currently owe £104,000 if it is sold it would probably be sold around £170 -£180,000 we have a joint loan for £12,000 and credit cards (his name) arounf £4,000 I have no pension. He has a fantastic one from work. He currently pays mortgage (interest only for another year) and gas, electric water..I pay everything else. food council tax ,school travel fees, virgin media package, tv licence etc. he earns £2200 per month and has a car.i dont drive. he wants to split proceeds and us to go into rental what should i do? I have no savings to pay huge solicitors fees but feel i should get legal advice on divorcing him help!

AJ 08/03/2014 at 6:24 pm

Question.
Two, actually. First, my soon to be ex husband are still under the same roof as the divorce goes through. We have the Nisi. He insists he won't be moving in with his girlfriend but I am pretty sure he plans to do so. He's denying it because he wants to claim for a house. What if he is taken at his word, given enough to buy a house and then moves in with her? His income is more than twice mine is (I get £400 a month) and has more savings than me.
Second question: he keeps hugging me. I hate it but because it's 'just' a hug, what can I do? I should add he's been abusive and controlling throughout our 30 year marriage.

deb 01/04/2013 at 4:15 pm

My ex partner refuses to agree to sell the property what would happen if I just walk out and not pay my half of the morgage cannot see a way out of this siuation

TW 26/03/2013 at 12:00 pm

Question

I met my girlfriend 2 years ago and after a year she became pregnant and we married 6 months ago. When the twins were 3 months old out of the blue she issued divorce papers. The judge has allowed divorce on simple unreasonable behaviour reasons and ordered me to transfer the £300,000 house into the sole name of my ex. I am jointly responsible for the mortgage of £20,000 left if she does not keep up the payments. All chattles have been ordered to my ex. Custody has been awarded to my ex, I have alternate weekend and a share of holiday contact. This seems unfair that I have lost everything. The judge told me the children needed a home and that is in their best interest. But my ex benefits because she is the sole owner now. She never paid a bill, never paid to the mortgage, never worked. The judge told me she has a full time job looking after the twins. To top it all my ex claimed CSA and recieves about a quarter of my £40,000 salary. I am homeless living with a friend having received her legal bills of £20,000. And further more a new man has just moved in to the home I used to have and he is earning £200,000 a year and giving her a life of luxury, and I still have to pay her CSA monies. I am told what she does post divorce is nothing to do with me. The children and their life is paramount and I must pay CSA. I think I have been robbed left right and centre and I don't have a leg to stand on. Any words of comfort would be so appreciated.

Jack 02/09/2012 at 7:08 pm

This is slightly less complicated than some of the issues I have read about on this site.I am a male of 65, and my wife has threatened to engage a soliciter in order to force my to sell our house. There has never been any violence involved from my side, and certainly no 'affairs', at least for me. We simply just don't seem to be able to get on.We also have our two sons living with us, although they are 20 and 25.In a perfect world, living in two different places would be preferable, but financially it is frought with problems. I shall shortly be retiring next year and have been seriously ill over the ten years. At the moment, I don't want the hassle and stress. It's a largish house, but split two ways won't buy much.I also ought to say that for my part, there are no raging arguments; we simply don't communicate much. After months of silences, I am currently at least making an effort to calm things down, although it's not likely to be successful. If she does go to law, it will cost us both thousands which in my view is really silly.

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