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Is my Ex Entitled to a Percentage of the House?

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Is My Ex Entitled To A Percentage Of The House?

Q.

I have recently split with my partner after 5 years, we were not married, have 2 children and a mortgage that is solely in my name. I have worked throughout the relationship and been the only financial provider for the family.

She has not worked or contributed in any way. She chose to leave the house and take our 2 children to live on benefits in a council house. I have a feeling she is about to try to take a % of my house, is she entitled to any of it?

(Mr Rob Simpson, 25 November 2008)

A.

Many couples choose to live together without getting married and this is often referred to as ‘common law marriage’. However, this term is not recognized by law and does not hold any of the same rights as a legal marriage, however long you have been together. Many people believe that they are entitled to a percentage of their partner’s assets but this is not true. This is good news for you!

If the mortgage is solely in your name and you did not have any formal cohabitation or rental agreement with your partner then she is not entitled to claim any of your house. You say that you have been the sole provider, but even if your partner had been making financial contributions, unless her name is on the deeds, it’s all yours. She may still try to make a claim but the law is on your side and she is unlikely to have a case.

Having said that, you have two children together and you need to think about their welfare too. You will have to, by law, pay child maintenance to your partner but you may want to think about what else you could contribute to make your children’s lives better. It is understandable that you will feel angry towards your partner, and she has made her own choices, but this should not impact on your children’s lives.

Try to remain as civil as possible with their mother and come to an arrangement about custody and child support. If you cannot work this out together then there are a lot of liaison services available that will help you or you can take it through the courts.

You may also want to think about making a will so that your children are guaranteed to inherit your property if anything may happen to you. You can state that they don’t receive any of it until a certain age, or assign a executor so that your ex-partner doesn’t try to get hold of it.

Whatever you decide to do, your home is all yours but make sure that your children remain your priority and that they are protected, both financially and emotionally.

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Wainy - Your Question:
I've had my own mortgage for nearly twenty years. In 2008 I remarried and in 2011 he left. His name has never been on the mortgage. He never contributed to the mortgage as he bought a new family car and he paid for this, of which he took when he left. He also took a loan out in his name. Will I be liable for any of the loan and the car finance. Also can he make any claim on my property ?

Our Response:
Unless the loan was in your name also, then you will not be liable. It is highly unlikely your ex will have any claim on your property due to the short term of your marriage.
RelationshipExpert - 17-Jul-17 @ 12:11 PM
I've had my own mortgage for nearly twenty years. In 2008 i remarried and in 2011 he left. His name has never been on the mortgage. He never contributed to the mortgage as he bought a new family car and he paid for this, of which he took when he left. He also took a loan out in his name. Will I be liable for any of the loan and the carfinance. Also can he make any claim on my property ?
Wainy - 15-Jul-17 @ 2:43 PM
Linz - Your Question:
Hi. Need advice. My soon to be ex husband wants me to buy him out or sell my home. It was bought by me 17 years ago. 9 year ago I added him too the mortgage we separated a year after (2008.) From the day he left iv had nothing towards the mortgage/ children. He's now saying he wants half. My youngest is 13 he as said he's taking my boy at 16 so I have to sell and give him half. Any advice would be very grateful. Many thanks.

Our Response:
You would have to seek legal advice regarding this. As the marriage was short, then the house may be considered as a pre-marital asset should the matter have to go to court. If so, it would pass back into your ownership.
RelationshipExpert - 13-Jul-17 @ 3:02 PM
Hi. Need advice. My soon to be ex husbandwants me to buy him out or sell my home. It was bought by me 17 years ago. 9 year ago I added him too the mortgage we separated a year after (2008.) From the day he left iv had nothing towards the mortgage/ children. He's now saying he wants half. My youngest is 13 he as said he's taking my boy at 16 so I have to sell and give him half.Any advice would be very grateful. Many thanks.
Linz - 12-Jul-17 @ 9:48 PM
Hi my partner and his ex split up in 1993/94 weren't married theyhad a endowment mortgage policy together and her name is on both , they have been split up all these years and the mortgage is coming to a end this month. As the endowment was missed sold and there has been a shortfall abbey life have now payed out the 26,000 and they have split the cheque to my partner and his ex there is a shortfall of 18,000 which my partner has been saving for and has . My partner contacted her to explain what was happening with the endowment policy , she signed the relevant paper work to send the money in a old joint account that they had , Abbeylife has took so long to sort this out they end up sending a split cheque to both parties As they have sent her the cheque she is now saying that is her money and she wants compensation.she may have contributed 1,400 over the year or so she lived in the property. My partner has paid for everything , she has had regular maintenance payments and was fully involved in there life , the son even lived with us. just want to know where he stands with all this legally
123 - 17-Jun-17 @ 3:36 PM
hi Relationship expert Me and my ex split up and divorced in 2008 after 5 years of marriage. We didnt have a house that time we were renting. I got remarry in 2011. Me and my new partner just bought property. Most of the money for the deposit came from mynew partner. Just realized that i didnt have any consent order in 2008 and now i am worries if my ex can claim over my property. Please advise if my ex can claim over my property or any finance that me and my new partner set up. Thanks in advance
Charlie - 8-Jun-17 @ 2:25 PM
Dear relationship expert, Some what sadly (sense of failure), I have recently split form my partner of 24 years, we were not married. She developed an alchohol problem which has gotten out of hand resulting in me asking her to move out (not happy). We have lived together for over 20 of those, firstly, in her solely owned "smaller" house, which she still owned and was rented ( and has now moved back into). Then for the last 19 years in our current "bigger" house, wholly owned by myself, with all the deposit, mortgage and bills paid by me. We have 2 children who have chosen to stay in the "big" house. I say children, the eldest is 19 and the youngest 18 in a few weeks although both in full time education. I have been the main bread winner but my ex has always worked although she took opportunity to make personal lifestyle work choices. My ex always treated her original home as her asset, taking money via an additional mortgage to start a business ( not the one referred to below), even though I was against. I have always saved and reduced my mortgage with on eye on needing to fund my daughters education, something my ex never concerned her self with. Hence, she has very little in personal savings. Whilst I was always willing to share assets when we were together, I feel given her lifestyle choices I shouldn't have to sell my home or hand over my savings, some which were also inherited and some from a 25 yr savings plan. On an equity front, there is little doubt my personal assets via pension and this house are far greater. But she does have her own home, albeit with a mortgage which she hasn't had to pay for the past 20 years. There is also small buisness we started together 8 years ago, start up funded by me and now she has 100% of the shares in her name for tax reasons. I have accepted she will take this over, as it is effectively her living now. Can she have any claim on my house equity, pensions and savings? she keeps mentioning I need to settle with her, and a solicitor has said there would be implied trust, as I couldn't have paid the mortgage and saved if if wasn't for my ex working and helping with child care. This is a stretch of the true picture. The saving are not insignificant but a majority, around £50k, I have saved earmarking for my daughters education ( about 30k) and the rest as a start in life, I begrudge "robbing" the funds from my daughters pot, as there is only one who will replace it. There is one other issue, about 4 years ago I helped my ex's mother out as none of her 4 children wanted to. She wanted to move to a bungalow and due to bank austerity measures and age she couldn't get the 20k she needed on a mortgage. I agreed to lend £20k of the earmarked children's education money, on the basis is wouldn't be required for a while. In case I popped my clogs, I had it written up properly by the solicitor, whereby under some sort of trust, the 20k looked to be lent form my ex to her mother and would be returned if my
Sensiblehead - 1-Jun-17 @ 8:26 PM
Dear relationship expert, Some what sadly (sense of failure), I have recently split form my partner of 24 years, we were not married. She developed an alchohol problem which has gotten out of hand resulting in me asking her to move out (not happy). We have lived together for over 20 of those, firstly, in her solely owned "smaller" house, which she still owned and was rented ( and has now moved back into). Then for the last 19 years in our current "bigger" house, wholly owned by myself, with all the deposit, mortgage and bills paid by me. We have 2 children who have chosen to stay in the "big" house. I say children, the eldest is 19 and the youngest 18 in a few weeks although both in full time education. I have been the main bread winner but my ex has always worked although she took opportunity to make personal lifestyle work choices. My ex always treated her original home as her asset, taking money via an additional mortgage to start a business ( not the one referred to below), even though I was against. I have always saved and reduced my mortgage with on eye on needing to fund my daughters education, something my ex never concerned her self with. Hence, she has very little in personal savings. Whilst I was always willing to share assets when we were together, I feel given her lifestyle choices I shouldn't have to sell my home or hand over my savings, some which were also inherited and some from a 25 yr savings plan. On an equity front, there is little doubt my personal assets via pension and this house are far greater. But she does have her own home, albeit with a mortgage which she hasn't had to pay for the past 20 years. There is also small buisness we started together 8 years ago, start up funded by me and now she has 100% of the shares in her name for tax reasons. I have accepted she will take this over, as it is effectively her living now. Can she have any claim on my house equity, pensions and savings? she keeps mentioning I need to settle with her, and a solicitor has said there would be implied trust, as I couldn't have paid the mortgage and saved if if wasn't for my ex working and helping with child care. This is a stretch of the true picture. The saving are not insignificant but a majority, around £50k, I have saved earmarking for my daughters education ( about 30k) and the rest as a start in life, I begrudge "robbing" the funds from my daughters pot, as there is only one who will replace it. There is one other issue, about 4 years ago I helped my ex's mother out as none of her 4 children wanted to. She wanted to move to a bungalow and due to bank austerity measures and age she couldn't get the 20k she needed on a mortgage. I agreed to lend £20k of the earmarked children's education money, on the basis is wouldn't be required for a while. In case I popped my clogs, I had it written up properly by the solicitor, whereby under some sort of trust, the 20k looked to be lent form my ex to her mother and would be returned if my
Sensiblehead - 1-Jun-17 @ 8:22 PM
Kris - Your Question:
Hi @ relationship expert I left the comment below about my ex wanting claim to my house and how my grandfather put the down payment on the house for me. I just spoke with A lawyer and he said that my ex is entitled to 50% when he's done nothing!! How can that be!!? This is sooo wrong! I live in California. Should I seek advice from another lawyer or do you think that is pretty accurate?

Our Response:
I didn't realise you were from California. We are a UK-based site with knowledge of only UK-based law. Therefore, I'm afraid we cannot advise further on this except to say a second opinion is always good to have.
RelationshipExpert - 1-Jun-17 @ 11:40 AM
Hi @ relationship expert I left the comment below about my ex wanting claim to my house and how my grandfather put the down payment on the house for me. I just spoke withA lawyer and he said that my ex is entitled to 50% when he's done nothing!! How can that be!!? This is sooo wrong! I live in California. Should I seek advice from another lawyer or do you think that is pretty accurate?
Kris - 31-May-17 @ 6:38 PM
Kris - Your Question:
I bought a house with my boyfriend at the time. My grandfather put the down payment on the house for me and my ex only lived at the property for 2 months before moving out. The market value of the house was lower then when we bought it so I told him that I would take the house on and he agreed. I have lived here making payments ever since. At the time of break up I didn't get anything in writing because I was believed him (I know big mistake) ( I was young) now 8 years later he want claim to the house. He has never put any money in to the house other then half of the first two months. We now have to go to court. What are his chances of winning when I have spent a lot in home improvements etc.

Our Response:
If your ex has not contributed to the house financially in any way, and you can prove your grandfather give you the deposit, then it is highly unlikely he will be entitled to anything. You may wish to seek legal advice in order to explore your options regarding getting his name off the deeds in the process.
RelationshipExpert - 31-May-17 @ 2:22 PM
I bought a house with my boyfriend at the time. My grandfather put the down payment on the house for me and my ex only lived at the property for 2 months before moving out. The market value of the house was lower then when we bought it so I told him that I would take the house on and he agreed. I have lived here making payments ever since. At the time of break up I didn't get anything in writing because I was believed him (I know big mistake) ( I was young) now 8 years later he want claim to the house. He has never put any money in to the house other then half of the first two months. We now have to go to court. What are his chances of winning when I have spent a lot in home improvements etc.
Kris - 31-May-17 @ 4:03 AM
Dan - Your Question:
Hi a friend of mine has been with a guy for 4 years, she had him put onto her mortgage but he couldn't get life insurance, it turns out he is a registered alcoholic and he has put loads of debts onto the mortgage , he is now claiming that half the house is his, he has been on the mortgage for about 1 year, she has lived there for over 21 years, they are not married. Any advice would be great. Thank you.

Our Response:
Much depends upon the loans in question and whether your friend has signed for the loan or whether her partner has signed fraudulently. In a case such as this your friend would have to take legal advice.
RelationshipExpert - 22-May-17 @ 10:48 AM
Hi a friend of mine has been with a guy for 4 years, she had him put onto her mortgage but he couldn't get life insurance, it turns out he is a registered alcoholic and he has put loads of debts onto the mortgage , he is now claiming that half the house is his, he has been on the mortgage for about 1 year, she has lived there for over 21 years, they are not married. Any advice would be great. Thank you.
Dan - 21-May-17 @ 8:08 AM
Steve - Your Question:
I sold my home 10 years ago for 155000 and bought a house for 170000 soley in my name but moved my new partner in. I paid the mortgage and the title is in my name only. We have now split and she says a solicitor says she is entitled to half the house. She has a bequeathed home from her mother worth 100000 but says I am not entitled to it. We have 48000 in joint saving though 60000 originally came from her mothers will but we have had cars, holidays and spent on the house. I save 700 a month and she 100 so we have basically put in and taken out for things. Is she really entitled to half the house as the solictor said. I'm happy for her to take the joint savings and half the profit on the sale. (sale price 200,000) to take into account what we have spent.

Our Response:
Much depends upon how long your partner has lived with you and whether you have children together regarding whether she can successfully register an interest. However, it is highly unlikely your partner would be entitled to half the house if you have invested most of the money. But, if there are children involved she may have more rights to claim,please see link here.
RelationshipExpert - 8-May-17 @ 2:48 PM
I sold my home 10 years ago for 155000 and bought a house for 170000 soley in my name but moved my new partner in. I paid the mortgage and the title is in my name only. We have now split and she says a solicitor says she is entitled to half the house. She has a bequeathed home from her mother worth 100000 but says I am not entitled to it. We have 48000 in joint saving though 60000 originally came from her mothers will but we have had cars, holidays and spent on the house. I save 700 a month and she 100 so we have basically put in and taken out for things. Is she really entitled to half the house as the solictor said. I'm happy for her to take the joint savings and half the profit on the sale. (sale price 200,000) to take into account what we have spent.
Steve - 7-May-17 @ 11:39 PM
Spit - Your Question:
Me and my ex split 10 yrs ago, she left the martial home that we bought 4 years before. We unofficially shared custody of my daughter for 18 months, then my daughter decided to live with me full time. My ex then divorced me a few years later without any financial closure. She tried forcing a sale of the property at the time but was told she couldn't whilst my daughter was in full time education. She has not contributed to the mortgage for over 6 yrs. My daughter finished full time education a few years ago and because I can't buy my ex out and take over the mortgage on my own I now have to sell the property. How much of the equity is my ex entitled to?? There was a debt run up on mortgage when we first split which I actually paid off over 3 years

Our Response:
You would have to seek legal advice or mediation/divorce arbitration regarding this, if you cannot agree on a figure. The advisers will take into consideration what you both have put into the property in order to determine what both will get out. It's easier and more cost-effective if you can come to an arrangement between you, taking into account what you have both put in.
RelationshipExpert - 3-May-17 @ 11:16 AM
Me and my ex split 10 yrs ago, she left the martial home that we bought 4 years before. We unofficially shared custody of my daughter for 18 months, then my daughter decided to live with me full time. My ex then divorced me a few years later without any financial closure. She tried forcing a sale of the property at the timebut wastold she couldn't whilst my daughter was in full time education. She has not contributed to the mortgage for over 6 yrs. My daughter finished full time education a few years ago and because I can't buy my ex out and take over the mortgage on my own I now have to sell the property. How much of the equity is my ex entitled to?? There was a debt run up on mortgage when we first split which I actually paid off over 3 years
Spit - 2-May-17 @ 7:52 PM
Ben - Your Question:
HiAfter a bit of advice. In November me & my gf split after 11 years together. We jointly own a house which we bought in 2013. We paid £185k for it & it's now worth £270k. Since 2013 my gf (who earns more) has been paying the mortgage, whilst I paid most of the rest (mortgage monthly was £530, I was paying £250 for everything else).We initially bought the house thanks to substantial (£20k plus) deposit gift to myself from my parents. In the eventuality things do not remain cordial, and we can't sort it out acrimoniously, where would I stand? My gf has told me that one of her friends believes she's entitled to the whole sum/more of the house as she's been the one paying the mortgage, and this has worried me somewhat.

Our Response:
You don't say whether you have children between you or not, as this would make a difference regarding whether you could force your ex to sell or buy you out. The longer your ex pays the mortage alone, then obviously should the matter have to be resolved either through arbitration or through court, then she would have more of a claim. When calculating how such an asset should be split, it will start at 50/50 and then work backwards taking into consideration who has contributed more financially to the house. The longer your ex pays the mortgage - the greater her prospective claim. If you don't have children, then you could look into asking your ex to buy you out, or sell in order to release your equity. If you do have children, then it's likely a court would not force your ex to sell as the court's main priority is to ensure your chidlren have a roof over their heads until they leave full-time education. Therefore, some legal advice may be needed here.
RelationshipExpert - 28-Apr-17 @ 2:35 PM
Hi,I'm thinking of leaving my partner of 10 years.we've got two kids together and a mortgage in both our names but we aren't married.he said he won't sell the house or give me any money.ifI move out am I entitled to some money from the house? House is now worth £300 000.I have been contributingto the mortgage for last 3 years but I was giving him cash every month.if it's not proved in the bank I paid him money am I still entitled to some money?
Pav - 28-Apr-17 @ 1:02 PM
Hi After a bit of advice. In November me & my gf split after 11 years together. We jointly own a house which we bought in 2013. We paid £185k for it & it's now worth £270k. Since 2013 my gf (who earns more) has been paying the mortgage, whilst I paid most of the rest (mortgage monthly was £530, I was paying £250 for everything else). We initially bought the house thanks to substantial (£20k plus) deposit gift to myself from my parents. In the eventuality things do not remain cordial, and we can't sort it out acrimoniously, where would I stand? My gf has told me that one of her friends believes she's entitled to the whole sum/more of the house as she's been the one paying the mortgage, and this has worried me somewhat.
Ben - 28-Apr-17 @ 10:57 AM
Rosie - Your Question:
My ex partner and me separated 8 years ago he was found guilty of assault towards me. We have 2 children together and were never married. Since he left I have made all the payments to the mortgage and he has not contributed towards the mortgage or any financial support for the Children. He is now saying he is entitled to 50%of the property and that I have to sell. I cannot afford to go to court over this and am not entitled to legal aid. Is he right? Thank you

Our Response:
If your ex has not contributed to the mortgage, then it is highly unlikely he would be awarded 50% of the house, should the matter go to court. However, much also depends upon how much he put into the house originally i.e re;deposit etc. But, unless you can both agree an arrangement between you and/or you refuse to sell, then your ex will have to take the matter to court if he wants a resolution to the situation. If the matter goes to court, it is unlikely a court would force you to sell until your children are 18 and/or they have completed their full-time education.
RelationshipExpert - 25-Apr-17 @ 2:19 PM
My ex partner and me separated 8 years ago he was found guilty of assault towards me. We have 2 children together and were never married. Since he left I have made all the payments to the mortgage and he has not contributed towards the mortgage or any financial support for the Children. He is now saying he is entitled to 50%of the property and that I have to sell.I cannot afford to go to court over this and am not entitled to legal aid. Is he right?. Thank you
Rosie - 24-Apr-17 @ 11:01 PM
Will - Your Question:
I have been thinking about getting a divorce for sometime. My husband and I have 3 kids and he also has 2 from a previous relationship which stay with us 2 to 4 nights a week. My husband doesn't and has very rarely in the past, maybe only a few hundred pounds here and there, ever contributed to any of the household bills, food shopping, cars, nursery bills, clothes for the children etc. I bought our house 4 years ago using money that my parents gave me as a deposit. The house is in my name as my husband of 8 years is a few years older than me and I could only afford the mortgage payments on a 30 year mortgage. I am self employed and have not been able to take maternity leave whilst having my 3 children because I have always been the one who has had to work. My husband stayed at home for some of the time while our second child was a baby. He could of worked if he wanted to as my sister has always helped out with childcare. Our relationship has deterioted over the years, some of it is to do with me having to work long hours, I work most evenings at home and alot is the fact my husband demands money from me and smokes weed all day. He is refusing to leave the house. He says if I want a divorce I have to sell the house. He is entitled to a share if he has never paid a penny towards the mortgage? Can he force me to sell? And does he have any right to stay if I don't want him to?

Our Response:
If you are married, then regardless of whether your husband works or not your assets are considered joint. If your parents gave you the deposit etc, this could be considered a pre-marital asset, which you may be able to claim back if you were forced to sell (which is unlikely). Much depends upon who is considered the primary carer of your children. If the matter went to court, then the court will always decide upon what is in the best interests of your children and having a roof over their head is considered the most important factor. This means the 'primary carer', whether it is you or your husband, may be allowed to live in the house until the children leave full-time education. Your situation is similar to many about-face situations where one parent (usually the mother) is the primary carer and the other the wage earner. In the eyes of the court, both are doing a valuable job in the home whether it is caring for the children or going out to work. Regardless of who has paid towards the general finances in the house, both of you are as equally entitled to live in the house and can refuse to move, as the house is jointly owned. Therefore, you may wish to seek some legal advice here.
RelationshipExpert - 11-Apr-17 @ 2:11 PM
I have been thinking about getting a divorce for sometime. My husband and I have 3 kids and he also has 2 from a previous relationship which stay with us 2 to 4 nights a week. My husband doesn't and has very rarely in the past, maybe only a few hundred pounds here and there, ever contributed to any of the household bills, food shopping, cars, nursery bills, clothes for the children etc . I bought our house 4 years ago using money that my parents gave me as a deposit. The house is in my name as my husband of 8 years is a few years older than me and I could only afford the mortgage payments on a 30 year mortgage. I am self employed and have not been able to take maternity leave whilst having my 3 children because I have always been the one who has had to work. My husband stayed at home for some of the time while our second child was a baby. He could of worked if he wanted to as my sister has always helped out with childcare. Our relationship has deterioted over the years, some of it is to do with me having to work long hours, I work most evenings at home and alot is the fact my husband demands money from me and smokes weed all day. He is refusing to leave the house. He says if I want a divorce I have to sell the house. He is entitled to a share if he has never paid a penny towards the mortgage? Can he force me to sell? And does he have any right to stay if I don't want him to?
Will - 11-Apr-17 @ 1:46 AM
Lushtwinmum - Your Question:
Please can you help me ex biyfriend left 8yrs ago I live in house with our 8 yr old twins I took mortgage out when bought the house as ex didn't want worry of paying a mortgage for 25 yrs we put too deposit down from sale of land we owned he never paid mortgage or any bills all in my name as he had poor work history didn't work couldn't even get dole money as he hadn't made enough national ins contributions, anyway now got letter from his solicitor swaying he wants 50% value of house I've saved worked hard in house paid to have new bathroom kitchen out in decorated threw out and even had central heating and double glazing out in threw out hisvsolicitirs claim he did significant work in house to add aluve and then I asked him to leave which not true he lived in house 9months did no diy just drank and not worked I've suffered historical financial emotional and physical abuse from this man I can't afford fight it in court I scared To mediation with him as wears me down and last time we mediated about house he beat me up in front of the children after he also states his tax credits git paid into my bank account again not true as I was working not him so it was my children's tax credits that I got how can Ifight this without cost so stressed juscwaht keep head over children's and left house all to them he not paid maintence for them he was advised yrs ago to just walk away as it housing his 2 kids but this letter has come now out of the blue any thoughts advice be really appreciated thank you

Our Response:
It is highly unlikely a court would remove you from a house you share with your kids. A court will always decide upon what it thinks is in the best interests of your children and keeping a roof over their heads will be considered the main priority. If you can prove you have contributed to the house in terms of refurbishment and your ex hasn't, then you should have a strong case. If you have paid the mortgage since he left and even prior to him leaving, then you stand a good chance. You can see more via the CAB link here. If you cannot afford legal fees, you can self litigate. Litigants in person MUST be treated equally before the law and have equal access to justice. Judges have a duty to ensure a fair trial by giving them due assistance to achieve this. But that duty does not extend to giving legal advice. Nor can a judge be seen to favour one party over another, even if that party is a litigant in person. Therefore, it would be advisable to seek some legal advice in the first instance either professionally, or via the Citizens Advice Bureau. I don't think you have too much to worry about here regarding having your house taken away from you - but I can appreciate how tiring it must be for you. I hope this helps.
RelationshipExpert - 6-Apr-17 @ 3:03 PM
Please can you help me ex biyfriend left 8yrs ago I live in house with our 8 yr old twins i took mortgage out when bought the house as ex didn't want worry of paying a mortgage for 25 yrs we put too deposit down from sale of land we owned he never paid mortgage or any bills all in my name as he had poor work history didn't work couldn't even get dole money as he hadn't made enough national ins contributions, anyway now got letter from his solicitor swaying he wants 50% value of house I've saved worked hard in house paid to have new bathroom kitchen out in decoratedthrew out and even had central heating and double glazing out in threw out hisvsolicitirs claim he did significant work in house to add aluve and then I asked him to leave which not true he lived in house 9months did no diy just drank and not worked I've suffered historical financial emotional and physical abuse from this man I can't afford fight it in court I scared Tomediation with him as wears me down and last time we mediated about house he beat me up in front of the children after he also states his tax credits git paid into my bank account again not true as I was working not him so it was my children's tax credits that I got how can Ifight this without cost so stressed juscwaht keep head over children's and left house all to them he not paid maintence for them he was advised yrs ago to just walk away as it housing his 2 kids but this letter has come now out of the blue any thoughts advice be really appreciated thank you
Lushtwinmum - 6-Apr-17 @ 11:30 AM
Julie H - Your Question:
My comment doesn't appear to have a response? Can someone please look for me.ThanksJulie

Our Response:
Much depends upon the views of your ex husband and whether he wishes to try to stake a claim. If he does, and you think he is not entitled to a share, then either one of you would have to take the matter either to mediation, financial arbitration or court in order to try and resolve the issue. Obviously, the fact that you have paid considerably more towards the deposit and mortgage from your personal finances will be taken into consideration should the matter go to arbitration or court. However, taking it to court would cost. In situations such as this, you would hope your ex will realise there is no point to trying to pursue a claim towards something he hasn't paid towards (even though in name he financially co-owns) and therefore will consent to your selling the house and benefitting from any equity. But this is in an ideal world and as we know, life doesn't always work like that. Therefore, it is all dependent upon the goodwill or not of your ex and his level of consent.
RelationshipExpert - 3-Apr-17 @ 12:22 PM
My comment doesn't appear to have a response? Can someone please look for me. Thanks Julie
Julie H - 2-Apr-17 @ 11:52 AM
Hi, I have been separated for over three years from my husband. We have two children. Our house is jointly owned and we still have a mortgage. Since he left he has not contributedone any money to the house or our children. I have maintained everything. In a divories settlement what can I expect. I can't give him more than 20%of the equity of the house. I don't want his pension. I don't want him to have mine. Hope you can shed light on it all. Feeling worried.
VE - 31-Mar-17 @ 10:50 PM
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