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Building Your Confidence & Self Esteem

By: Emma Jones - Updated: 2 Jan 2013 | comments*Discuss
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Some people seem to strut around as if they are the most confident creatures on earth but everyone has their insecurities. If you are struggling with low self esteem then it is time to let go of the past accept how great you are and never settle for second best. Obviously this can be a lot easier said than done but by building up your confidence you will soon be the one strutting down the street with style.

Let Go Of The Past

If people have put you down, bullied you or cheated on you in the past then it can be hard to let go of these negative feelings. You need to stop blaming yourself for what has happened and realise that it was the other person with the problem, not you. If you have negative people around you then you need to cut them out of your life. People are usually mean because they are struggling with their own self esteem issues and are looking for an easy target to make themselves feel better. This is no excuse and you should not have to put up with it.

Accentuate The Positive

When we are feeling down on ourselves we focus on all the negative qualities that we have. When you look in the mirror all you can see are your big thighs or crooked teeth. Maybe you are really bothered by your loud laugh or bad spelling. Whatever it is, it warps your perception of yourself and begins to overshadow everything else. Next time you look in the mirror find three things you like about yourself. Have you got gorgeous eyes? Is your hair shiny? Do you have long legs or a shapely behind? Try to focus on these good points each time you look in the mirror and slowly you will realise that you are not as bad as you think. People never see your flaws the way you do. Ask your friends and family what they like most about you. Whether it is your sense of humour, big heart or shoulder to learn on, you will probably be surprised by how great they think you are.

Celebrate Yourself

Now you have found the good points about yourself, celebrate them. Wear a skirt that shows off your great legs or some bright eye shadow to accentuate your eyes. Look in the mirror each day and tell yourself that you are funny, clever and caring. The more you tell yourself how great you are the more you will believe it and the more confident you will become.

Accept What You’re Worth

Once you have began to build up your confidence and self esteem you don’t want to leave room for anyone to knock it back down again. Make sure that you don’t allow negative people into your life and that your friends support and encourage you. If you enter into a new relationship or your current partner begins to put you down you need to put a stop to it. This time around you will notice the signs and feel yourself slipping back down. You should expect the best and never settle for less – you’re worth it.

Everybody has great qualities about them that need to be accepted and celebrated. Once you find yours don’t let anyone tell you any different and enjoy your new found confidence.

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